Being in a relationship can completely transform a person. A good relationship makes that person happier and stronger, but a bad relationship breaks that person from the inside. I, for one, was in a bad relationship for some time and I learned a few things from this toxic relationship. Being in a toxic relationship can do more harm to a person mentally than it does on a physical level. The longer you stay in such a relationship, the harder it gets to find your own strength and happiness again. So when you see these ten toxic signs, it means that it is finally time to cut the cord and find a partner who treats you with as much respect and dignity as you treat him or her. Here are ten signs of a toxic relationship which will help you identify your relationship and move away from it for your own happiness and well-being:
Top 10 Signs of a Toxic Relationship:
1. You face jealousy and arguments at every stage.
A bad relationship is filled with jealousy and trust issues. My partner used to feel jealous at every stage and didn’t even allow me to work with male colleagues. The constant arguments about trust and loyalty made me feel like quitting everything. Your partner should be your strength and should not drag you down with unnecessary envy without a cause.
2. You face constant criticism and disapproval.
Your partner never praises you or makes you feel like he or she is proud of you. You face continuous disrespect and judgement with respect to your choices in your professional and personal life.
I used to fear sharing my achievements with my partner to avoid the drama.
3. You tend to avoid the other person.
Mutual avoidance tends to creep up in the relationship and you avoid meeting your partner so that you do not have to face the negative energy that he or she is filled with. This lack of communication creates a major divide in the relationship. Me and my partner used to not meet for weeks without any of us complaining about it.
4. You make the other person a priority.
You tend to forget yourself in a toxic relationship and try to make the other person happy by giving in to the demands. It becomes a one-sided relationship which can never make the other person feel equal. You begin to neglect things that you like doing in order to find time for something your partner likes.
5. You think that you are doing everything wrong.
A toxic relationship makes you feel that anything you are doing or saying is not making the other person happy and this uncertainty fills you with vibes of entrapment. I faced constant challenges to improve upon some things that my partner did not like and felt that unnecessary pressure to rise up to his expectations.
6. You begin to loathe yourself.
I began to feel unworthy. I began to loathe myself for not being able to have a say in the relationship and letting my partner undermine my efforts. The empty pretense of smiling even when everything was not ok made me feel weak and pathetic about myself.
7. You stop looking at the future together.
In a great relationship, you and your partner dream together of your future and work as a team to make all these dreams come true. In a toxic relationship, you and your partner have separate dreams and do not bother to share them or work on them together.
8. You feel drained instead of being happy.
The constant drama and negative vibes make you feel drained and tired at the end of the day instead of being happy and positive. It brings out the worst in you and you are in a state of eternal tiredness in such a relationship.
I used to wake up tired and had a bad day every day while I was in this relationship.
9. You begin to lower your standards of acceptability.
Everybody has a certain set of standards which he or she adheres to in their personal and professional lives. In a toxic relationship, you begin to accept things and behaviours which earlier you might have not accepted. You begin to accept unacceptable behaviour and give more power to your partner to continue such actions.
10. You begin to face control issues.
The two people in a relationship should have equal rights but in a toxic relationship, you allow yourself to get controlled by the other person. This one-sided autonomy makes you feel lesser in the relationship.
These are 10 common signs that you relationship is getting toxic. I’ve also shared Tips on fixing a toxic relationship, so make sure you check that post out.