Believing in monogamy tends to become hard if you and your partner are in a long-distance relationship. Considering an open long-distance relationship might be a good option to consider if you miss the physical aspects of a relationship but this decision might break your relationship if you do not tread carefully. Here are five tried and tested tips that me and my partner followed to survive an open long-distance relationship without any drama:
5 Ways We Survived Our Long Distance Relationship
1. We both made sure that we wanted to do it.
In case you both want to go for an open long-distance relationship, make sure that your heart is in it and both of you are comfortable with the idea. Do not rush your partner into something he or she might be uncomfortable with as this can later have large-scale repercussions.
Both me and my partner were craving the physical aspects of a relationship and were open to the idea of dating other people when we were away from each other. Try and discuss things and straighten any worries out before going ahead with the idea. Exchange ideas back and forth before deciding on the matter so that both of you are very secure about the relationship.
2. We set the ground rules of the relationship and followed them faithfully.
After deciding that we want to go for an open relationship, I and my partner said down for laying some ground rules for the relationship. There are many different types of open relationships and it is totally up to you and your partner to decide how much openness you are comfortable with.
Remember, being not loyal about anything in your life with your partner makes your relationship toxic so avoid any secrets and be faithful.
Some relationships are just for dating purposes wherein you both can date other people but sexual advances are off limits. Some relationships go further and the partners allow each other to have a sexual relationship with other people while they are away. As for us, we decided to just date other people and kept sexual encounters off bounds. It is very important to set these rules so that the other partner knows the limits.
3. We shared everything with each other with respect to every date.
We made it a rule to discuss about the prospective partners the other person was planning to meet and each date had to be discussed and approved before we could go on that particular date. This made things clear between the two people who are in the long-distance relationship as trust issues can crop up in a long distance relationship and even more so in an open long distance relationship.
Do not go behind your partner’s back when you are in such type of a relationship as this can cause major anxiety and distrust to your partner and can ruin your relationship. Always share whatever you feel about the other people you plan to date and stick to the ground rules faithfully.
4. We had a veto rule for every dating partner.
This rule made both of us very secure about our relationship as we knew that we can always veto the date if you are not feeling ok with the whole idea or a person. The veto rule allowed us to let the other partner know that this date should not be taken forward. We both respected each other’s veto rule and made it clear to each other that none of us can go above and beyond this rule.
This also did not mean that I or he vetoed every date and we had to give a valid and reasonable explanation as to why we are not comfortable with a certain partner or why this date does not make sense.
5. We still did things that a couple in a normal relationship does.
The best tip that we followed was to not forget the main relationship when openly dating other people. My partner always came first for me and vice versa. We still planned dates and flew to see each other on holidays and other occasions to keep the spark alive in our relationship. The main thing to keep in mind is that never make your serious partner feel less important than other causal dating partners.
So these were the five tips that I followed to keep my open long distance relationship comfortable and secure for me and my partner. Being open to each other and sharing your experiences is the key to such type of relationship and we made significant efforts to work on our relationship while enjoying some casual dates once in a while with other people.