Open relationships are becoming so common these days since most of the couple I know live apart from each other due to work or family issues. These open relationships can be a great source of physical and emotional intimacy that a person craves without losing on to his or her main partner. I have been in an open relationship since the last two years and me and my partner both enjoy this arrangement because we follow a set of rules we laid down before starting the relationship. I am sharing some of these rules for open relationship below so that you can enjoy your relationship without guilt or discomfort:
Top 10 Rules For Open Relationship:
1. Discuss all the possible scenarios with your partner and be prepared for everything.
Be open with your partner about how you feel about this whole thing and discuss what could the possible scenarios be. Keep in mind that an open relationship can end up either way and has a lot of ifs and buts you have to consider. Do not just flow with the euphoria and forget the end result of this decision. Do not take any decision when you both are angry or have fought with each other. Think for a few days and then consider the option.
2. Avoid common friends and acquaintances.
Please do not end up flirting with a common friend as this can only make the whole arrangement a lot more complex than it actually is. Avoid friends and people you both meet on a daily basis and go for lovers whom you are only going to meet for the purpose of having sex.
3. Share details of the partner but do not share graphic details with each other.
Always be truthful to your partner about the person you are meeting but do not share overly graphic details of how your casual encounter went as this can cause unnecessary worry and anxiety for your partner.
4. Do not get over-friendly with your open partner and develop feelings.
Being in an open relationship does not mean cheating on your partner or leaving him or her for somebody else. The fact that you both are mature enough to go for this arrangement should be kept in mind while hanging out with your lover. Limit the open relationship to just casual sex and nothing more than that.
5. Do not flaunt your open relationship to the world.
As much as you want to tell your friends how you and your partner are experimenting with your relationship but it is better to let some things remain a secret. Keep your open relationship between you and your partner to keep the spark alive and to stop the people from guessing if there are some problems in your relationship.
6. Set boundaries for you and your partner.
Set clear boundaries for you and your partner while entering an open relationship to avoid having disagreements later. Open relationships have a lot of gray areas and you need to discuss about which situations you and your partner are comfortable with and which situations are out of bounds else it will turn into a toxic relationship.
7. Pay as much attention to your relationship and do not neglect it.
Make sure that your main relationship does not suffer because of you casual experiences outside of your relationship. Give the same attention to your partner like you gave before entering the open relationship and ensure them that nothing has changed in your relationship with each other.
8. Do not bring the lover home in front of your partner.
This is a strict no-no. Do not rub your partner’s face in the fact that you sleep with other people. Make this a rule that no outside lovers are to be bought home in front of the other partner to avoid making both of them feel uncomfortable in the presence of each other.
9. Use protection and avoid indulging with people who have too many sexual partners.
Do not bring STDs home by emphasizing on using protection always and by avoiding sleeping with skeptical partners. Avoid people who have many sexual partners as this can not only affect you but can affect your partner as well.
10. Test the arrangement first and share how you feel about it.
Do not jump head along in the open waters and give it a try before making any decision. Try out another lover and share your experiences with your partner about how you both feel and if it made you feel any better.
So these are the ten rules me and my partner followed to get the most out of our open relationship without damaging the existing relationship. We learnt so much about each other as well as ourselves in this phase and loved the experience only because we were honest with each other and set clear boundaries.